Slower sex is just that-slower- so it is likely to last longer. Otherwise, they may get, um, frustrated… The sex lasts longer. That said, it’s good to have a talk with your partner before you practice edging. Not to mention there’s a little bit of a power play that happens with edging since you’re in control of your partner’s orgasm(s). “Doing this over and over can extend sexual intimacy and send never imagined waves of pleasure throughout the body,” Balestrieri says. Edging, the practice of orgasm control is about bringing yourself or your partner to the edge of orgasm and then stopping just before climax.
Slower sex allows you to build arousal and keep your partner on the edge of their seat, sometimes literally. The art of the tease is an arousal transforming act. “During faster sex, there may not be enough time to let fingers caress or feel lips grace your skin.” “Slow, erotic touching can ignite a passion and hunger in the body like no other,” she says. Sometimes jackhammering is nice, but don’t underestimate the power of a gentle touch. You can tantalize each other with light touch. “Mirror neurons, activated through eye contact, promote limbic resonance, which essentially means your limbic systems become more in sync.” In other words, the emotions you feel (like excitement or affection) can become amplified. “Whether a soft gaze or an intense stare, eye contact turns up the intensity of emotions and sensations,” Balestrieri says. Slow sex opens up the possibility for sustained eye contact, which adds a whole new level of hotness to the equation.
Balestrieri provided us with eight other ways slow sex can bring your lovemaking sessions to new, never-before-seen heights. This is just one of the many reasons slowing down sex can enhance your pleasure. Sex is a multi-sensory experience, and when you slow it down, you can savor more of the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and touches.” “Sure, you can feel things during fast sex, but during slower sex, there is more time for your brain to process the experience of each sensation,” says Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., founder of Modern Intimacy. But quickie sex shouldn’t be the only type of sex you’re having, especially when you do have the time for longer sessions (and even if you don’t have the time, you should make the time).Įnter slow sex, where you take your time with your partner and get the opportunity to experience every single bit of pleasure. Perhaps you’re swamped with work, or the kids will be back home at any moment-not to mention that cutting right down to it can be incredibly arousing. There are days when you only have enough time for a quickie.